Mystery Of Love

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It is something everyone wants But few seem to ever find. Of those who find it, fewer can seem to hold on to it. It can’t be seen but it has many sounds.

What is love?

Love is that special bond between two people, that lets them care about one another, but also lets them have their own life. It is the good and the bad times, the joy and the pain.

If you love someone, you must give them room. You must love the good and overlook the bad. You must be there when they’re happy and stay with them when they’re sad. If you can give yourself to them without expecting a return, and stand by them when you don’t want to, then only can you say those words everyone dreams of – “I LOVE YOU.”

Author: Nora Magnus

Photo Credit: The Love Rumor

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True SoulMate

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit & that’s what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soulmate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls & smack you awake. A soulmates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles & addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so out of control that you have to transform your life.

-Elizabeth Gilbert

After The “Thrill” Is Gone: What Really Makes A Lasting Relationship

*REPOST*

New love is almost like a drug the way that it takes over our emotions and alters our behavior. There’s the excitement of meeting a new person that still lingers accompanied by the curiosity that drives one to explore and learn all that there is to possibly know about their new love interest. The late-night phone calls, the constant need to be in one another’s presence, the butterflies, the feelings of being on cloud nine, the adrenaline rush experienced each time you realize that you have a message from your significant other, the giddiness and so on are all emotions and behaviors associated with new love and new relationships. The feeling of having your emotions intertwined with someone new whom you find yourself to be compatible with is euphoric and exhilarating. You see your partner through rose-colored sunglasses and they can do no wrong. While this is an absolutely beautiful phase in a relationship, the truth of the matter is that it doesn’t last forever. Not all of these feelings and behaviors cease as the relationship continues to grow, but studies have shown that the “head-over-heels” sensation tends to become less intense over time.

So, what happens when you are no longer seeing your partner through those rose colored glasses and reality acts as a pair of 3D Acuvue contact lenses giving you a 20/20 view of your partner, good, bad, and indifferent? What happens when the fairy tale fades and real life kicks in? What happens when the thrill of conquering something new is no longer present? Well, one of two things can happen. The couple either loves one another through their best as well as their worst or they decide that the relationship is not worth it and they part ways. The reality of a relationship is that it is something that two people must work at if they want it to thrive and flourish. Sadly, everyone is not willing to put forth the effort which is why one week you will see that infamous Facebook status updated: John Doe and Jane Doe are now in a relationship, followed by a host of cute photos and status updates filled with love proclamations. A few months later you log on to see Jane Doe went from being ‘in a relationship’ to ‘single’ and you think to yourself “Woah, I wonder what happened. They seemed so happy.” A question that many people in relationships should ask themselves is “When the newness fades what will we have left?”

There are four different types of love that a human can experience which include Storge- an affectionate kind of love often shared between family members, Philia- a love that comes as a result of a strong bond between friends, Eros – the form of love that many know as romance or intimacy and is commonly associated with being “head-over-heels”, and Agape- an unconditional love. In most cases they start off in the Eros phase, however it should gradually mature into Agape. Any relationship solely based on Eros love will fail. Theories suggest that if a relationship never reaches Agape love it cannot thrive, which makes perfect sense. Agape love is the glue that holds a couple together. When life becomes more demanding and pressures begin to swell, unconditional or Agape love is absolutely crucial to the survival of a relationship. It is what gets you through those rough patches and difficult seasons.

In order for a healthy relationship to last all four types of love should be present. As a result of the four present loves will come patience, dedication, respect, fidelity, communication, generosity, honesty, willingness to change. Strong relationships don’t just “happen”. They are formed when two people make a conscious decision to work at it and love one another unconditionally.

Jazmine Denise is a New York City based Lifestyle & Relationship writer.

http://madamenoire.com/189823/after-the-thrill-is-gone-what-really-makes-a-lasting-relationship/

Someone To Love You

Don’t look for someone to validate you. Don’t look for someone to like or love what you do. Like or Love what you do on your own. Whether it’s good or bad own it for yourself.

Realize that you are here for a purpose. Yes, you do have a purpose!! Most have figured it out already and most are still trying to find out what that purpose is.

Needing someone to love you should not be your focus. Someone does love you and has loved you from the beginning and Loves you with your flaws and all!!

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TRUE LOVE

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True Love is it out there?

Believe it or not, it does exist. If you let down your guard, open up the door Love will find you.

Is there a such thing as having 1 True Love? You may believe you had one True Love, that once that person that you thought was your True Love has passed you by or didn’t work out for whatever reason that there is no hope for True Love again. Or with the past hurt that you have endured that you will never be able to experience True Love. Stop letting fear keep you from experiencing True Love.

Some people have already set their mind that I am not ever going to find True Love. Not sure true love is something to be found, but I do know true love is something that comes to you. Sometimes going out looking for love is a not a good idea. You end up getting everything else, but the thing you were looking for.

Saw this quote & wanted to share it…Love comes to those who still hope even though they’ve been disappointed, to those who still believe even thought they’ve been betrayed, to those who still love even thought they’ve been hurt before.

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Love~I’m Sorry

Why is it so hard for a person to say I LOVE YOU OR I’M SORRY?

Some people believe that it is pride and ego.

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Some may think that a person may be afraid to reveal their inner feeling for fear of rejection. They are afraid to say “Sorry”  because it is a sign of being the weaker person. Saying I am sorry is never easy to do. Some may think — I am not apologizing for anything, because I am not wrong, I am right!!  Boy are they wrong. But the more you apologize for small things, when it gets to the big things you have no problem saying “I am sorry.”

If you LOVE someone say it, a person has no idea of how you feel until you tell them. People can guess of how you feel, but why guess when you can tell them. Of course when you tell someone who you love them, it should be coming directly from the heart, not with the thought of I won’t say it until to them until they tell me. It should be something you feel and want to let them know just how you feel about them.

Sometimes the simplest things to say are the hardest things to say.

Completion

Do you think your soul-mate is the person who completes you?

Some people believe that their soul-mate is out there. That there is a person that is just right for them. There is a person who is out their who makes their half a whole. Many would say there is no such thing as a soul-mate, you just find the person that you are meant to be with.

Many will say you don’t need anyone to complete you, you are already complete. You don’t need to look to love for completion. You are not a half of a person you are a whole person. Everyone’s thoughts on love and soul-mates are different. You will know when the one comes, it will be the one that is chosen to forge ahead on the journey with you.