Over Achievers or Perfectionists

Are women over achievers or do they choose to put other’s needs before their own?  Some women wait until after everything is done, before they go and enjoy themselves. Are we that much of perfectionists?

Most women say:

I will wait until after the kids finish high school and on their way to college, before I finish the goals that I’ve set for myself.

I will wait until the kids are gone before I redo the kitchen.

I will wait until the kids are gone before I return to school.

Yes our thought process for waiting until the kids are gone makes sense to us. We’ve put other’s needs before ours. That’s just what most mothers do.

There’s nothing wrong with that, that’s just a part of the make-up.

Being Thankful and Appreciative

Taking the time to express appreciation is one of the most positive things you can do. It’s a big boost for the other person — people love know that they’re appreciated. It’s a great feeling for you, too.And there’s no better way to encourage people to do their best, than to let them know you appreciate what they’re doing.

Beyond showing appreciation for other people, it’s important to cultivate a general attitude of thankfulness. Stop and think about all the good things in your life and be thankful for them. Too often we focus on our problems and shortcomings, and that only gives them that much more control over our lives. Being thankful for the positive things in our lives helps us to focus on possibilities for improvement.

Think of someone to whom you’ve never before expressed appreciation and make it a point to let them know you’re thankful for what they’re doing. Make a habit of being thankful and appreciative for the positive things in your life. When you nurture and encourage the good things instead of dwelling on the problems, your life will be full of joy.

~Ralph Marston